I had a realisation of sorts yesterday…
See, I was exploring the masculine energy. And then I realised.
So basically, the masculine energy is about action, logic, structure, goals and getting things done. And oftentimes this totally matches competition, ranking, power and hierarchy! And apparently, yesterday I suddenly realised woah! Isn’t society kinda a really good match for traditional masculine energy?
See, I come from the camp where we’re told to get out of the rat race, that we’re living in the matrix even. Yet come to think of it, this so-called rat-race is kinda perfectly tailored for masculine energy in the sense that basically it ranks you in hierarchies, gives you a ladder to climb and such. Oh! So some people are actually built to be empowered by such a system huh? It isn’t just purely the blindly chasing of an illusory goal?!!!
Yep. Such was my realisation.
Anyways, my understanding deepened, and alongside that, I would like to present a certain perspective.
Basically, the perspective is that we’re still worthy even when we’re not able to perform well and show results.
It all goes back to unconditional love, which is more usually linked to the feminine energy. Basically, it means love, compassion and acceptance of all, regardless. There’s a more motherly aspect to this where you show kindness to people who are less capable than you, and then there’s actually also a more intellectual aspect where you demonstrate perspectivism and recognise that other, different ways of being are also valid.
So they say that the universe unconditionally loves us all. Thus even when we’re not really doing an exemplary job, the universe can see that we’re doing our frigging best. And that’s wholly enough already. For what more could we give? Literally nothing. And meanwhile, please also consider…
Let’s say we’re interacting with someone with a very low IQ who’s just smiling all the time and cannot be expected to do anything brilliant. Well, obviously we’d be patient! Well, if we have the trait of empathy that is. This person dealt a worse hand of cards by life, less blessed than us, receives our applause just doing their best. Even if they aren’t doing exceptionally amazing, even if they clearly, for instance, lack confidence and stutter…
When they do their best and show up, why, we applaud for them!
So why should things be different for ourselves?!!
See, for these people, we demonstrate patience, compassion and unconditional love. Yet, for our very own selves, even when we, being ourselves, know fully to be the case that we are already doing our absolute best, even if on the external it doesn’t really look all that ideal, why? Why can’t we applaud ourselves and show ourselves unconditional love, tell ourselves how unconditionally inherently worthy and valuable we are?!
So just food for thought, yeah. Do be patient with yourself and give ya regular pats on the back. Even if the standards of your masculine energy aren’t met, insofar as you aren’t able to fulfil certain expectations that you know, might possibly be high standards, don’t overdo it and burn out and feel a total lack of self-worth. Huh, you know what…
Going by masculine energy being based on performance, huh, some men even feel that their worth is totally based off such. As in, after they retire, they totally feel that they have no reason to exist anymore. They wholly! feel empty and nihilistic!! Because see, their masculine energy prided itself on order, structure, direction, goals. But once it comes to just existing alone without these things to channel their energy into, it all just!
…as if a meaningless void.
That’s precisely why some people just can’t sit around doing nothing. This desire for productivity is just more inherently inbuilt in them!! And of course, the other energy, feminine energy, is perfectly fine too even if technically, it might correspondingly point to a lack of ambition!!!
I mean, it’s totally fine and good if all you want to do is play games all day!
And yeah, everyone has both masculine and feminine energy, so it’s totally fine even if you’re a guy but don’t exactly have that channeled drive mate.:)
So, I’ll just personally add that for me, I’ve channeled my masculine energy into some pursuits like writing articles and posts, learning languages as well as most recently composing music once a week. Personal projects basically!
And meanwhile, of course, I don’t do so excessively at the cost of feminine energy too!!!
Basically, when you’re doing masculine energy, there are some trap holes that you might easily fall into. Such as being too fixated upon numbers that you regretfully fail to consider the human aspect of things!! Not opening up, being vulnerable and compassionate. Not being authentic, only as outwardly great as possible – recent performativity trend anyone?
(Yeah, so I feel that just by writing articles such as these, it is already demonstrable enough that I’ve not fallen in these pitfalls hehe.)
Anyways, I believe that most of us, at least, probably need a mixture of both. Have some projects that we work on to pass our time, aka doing. However, also balance it out properly so that they don’t take up all your time and slot in at least some being activities into your life as well! Don’t let your self-worth be entirely based on what you are or are not able to do; even if you seem to be behind in some areas, you just do you! Guilt-free!
If everyone has their own journey and timelines, comparison is totally something that doesn’t work in the first place! Just use others as these lighthouses, inspiration for where you’d like to be! And you as you are now!! Even without not being there yet you’re still dang perfect alr yo!
So now I would like to emphasise what I believe to be an essential point. Love should not! be performative.
Why?
Well, basically think about it. They say that you only know who is truly your friend if they stay with you not just in good times but also in bad. Substitute that with partner, family, whatever, it’s the same.
Now, over time, this is inevitable really. Your partner should not, will not!!! only see the perfect side of you. As time passes everything will surface into the long-term true state of affairs. Over time you should be perfectly fine with allowing your vulnerable side to be seen, that which has flaws. It’s literally only human. Nobody is perfect. It doesn’t make you any lesser especially considering all the good traits that you surely do possess!!! A flaw or two doesn’t diminish their worth.
So basically I’m kind of advocating more for ride or die yeah! Basically, show them who you are. If they can’t accept it, well, write them off. They’re not for you. Because you see, keeping your guard up is inadvisable!!
What you do at home, whether physical or mental – it can totally be a friend group- is you just relax, totally put your guard down and let yourselves be totally you. When people you don’t fully view as wholeheartedly part of your inner circle threaten to intrude on it what do you do? Why, you start to put your guard up again. You tense, or make a more socially acceptable version of yourself for fear of getting rejected.
And that is why it is so important to be truly yourselves in the most 4th house, relationships closest to your heart in life, be it romantic partner, friends, family or whatnot. For if you can’t even totally let down your guard! around them, where else can you let your guard down then? Consequently, what an exhausting life that would be!!!
You need that unconditional love. And the process of gaining that is sometimes self-advocacy, because it doesn’t come so easy! Ganbatte!
Finally, I must add here that this doesn’t flout authenticity whatsoever, no, the act of only showing your truest self around some people. For you see, that’s totally 10th house and the public image already! For the reputation mainly presented to the general public for yourself, of course it is still best to have an authentic persona. It is just that well, it is a tad more curated.
For instance, you have a specific lingo that you only use at home. Ye purposefully mispronounce certain words or use substitute words for fun, playing phonetics for a certain consonant… Well! It’s perfectly fine for you to speak the correct language outside, and it’s perfectly fine for knowledge of this not to be broadcasted everywhere, my friend! It’s perfectly fine! if this is only left for the select group of people with whom you utilise it.
So with that, in conclusion with this article I would like to promote two things.
First of all, seek true love that is unconditional for yourself. If they can’t! accept all of you, then bluntly put, they’re not for you. :(]
Second, even if it looks like your life is not going all that smoothly, and you have not done a really admirable job in gathering all the elements of it for yourself, don’t be hard on ya. Don’t fall into that hole where you feel like you’re nothing without them. Remember the principle of unconditional love, where we are patient and compassionate even to those less! well endowed by genes and such. Imagine you are the universe looking at you.
The universe sees you the exact same way. And even if you don’t have it all right now, especially if you’ve truly been trying your best and giving it your all, there’s nothing to feel bad about. You’re fully worthy and you are here for a reason; otherwise, you wouldn’t exist. And the best you can do here on this earth is to live the best you can. And that includes knowing that ultimately, you don’t have to only slog and toil and bear the weight of burden.
Truly, go enjoy life. Even before you retire, already have some fun things on the side. Truly relish the joy of living. You only live once, so live it up!
All the best! 🙂
Daimon out…