Hey all! Good day!
So I was actually totally stumped about what to write about today, but just a short while ago a burst of inspiration hit and so I stumbled across today’s topic. And then I decided to simply write this free flow without a plan or list of points in place. But I guess it should work out! Yeah!
So without further ado, I’ll begin.
Internal before external
The very first point that I’ll go into is that what happens in our internal world is primary to us. First and foremost, think about this statement. So-and-so made me angry. It’s their fault! Now, is this really a true statement? No!
It is really an amalgamation of the ongoings within the mind of the person who made the statement that resulted in them being angry! Now, there are naturally some insecurities or whatnot within someone’s mind that cause them to be triggered. Were it someone else for whom such a weakness does not exist, they would be thoroughly unaffected!
Thus, if you really want to be hardcore about self-mastery, whenever you are triggered by something, write that thing down. Then, later, defuse this bomb that exists within you and grant yourself nice, unsullied purity.
In addition, why are you allowing the external world to affect your state of mind? Consider that the external world is one of ups and downs by nature. In that case, aren’t you saying: Fine!! I’ll live like a see-saw?
However great you are, they say that there’s no one in this world that will not have haters. The most respected and esteemed person in this world can have them too. Just think of the one who died at the cross! However, so what?
Allowing yourself to be affected by other people and their negative energies is similarly something that could happen if you allow the outside world to affect you! And that is a perfect example of you allowing your internal world to be affected by the external world.
Now, if you look up all those self-mastery things online, you might find this. Be unaffected by what you do not have control over, for they are not something you can do anything about. Rather, shape what you actually do have control over!
Translation: You have control over your internal world, so use it! Meanwhile, you don’t over the external world, so don’t let it affect you!
It is even said that one reaches this peak where they have mastered themselves so surely that things in the external world can no longer affect their internal states. It is as if they’re a mountain… Hah, but an obvious truth is that that’s only for super high level people, so there’s no need to aim too high – at the very least, just gain basic self-control over your emotions first, okay?
Defusing one’s triggers
Now as I mentioned earlier, so you gotta defuse the ‘bombs’ that are your triggers. And of course, the very first step in this equation is none other than self-awareness. Like, that’s so very needed, for without it, you’re just triggering automatically and don’t even notice you are!
Anyway, the idea is to refine your core such that it is pristine and flawless, smooth and whole. For example, you might have some erroneous beliefs about yourself that are reinforcing such things. Additionally, another telltale sign about any potential impurities currently existing within you is really none other than your own emotions.
Think about it. How’re you feeling? Well, that’s precisely none other than your internal state!! Centred right around none other than your heart… now feel its strength. Is there anything weighing you down?
Now, according to the more spiritual people, when you are super spiritually advanced, you’ll be able to feel a sense of joy anytime, anywhen. You’ll no longer have to rely on external things to truly satisfy! you like a hedonist who so prizes pleasure. Instead, that will be your resting, abiding state…
Now, there is no need for us normal people to aim so high… just don’t forget to have the basic awareness of this one super basic principle contained within spirituality: don’t react, respond.
You react when you are triggered. It happens automatically, on autopilot!!!
Meanwhile, responding is when you thoughtfully, intentionally choose how you will face a situation at hand, even in spite of it! You are calm, and you are aware and consciously making a decision. It is high-level compared to reacting!
But of course, beyond that, we still gotta remember to identify our triggers whenever they crop up and take a small moment to go try defuse ’em. For otherwise, they taint our internal states with their murkiness! Which in effect diminishes our quality of life! Whew.
Just think about it this way. If you take pleasure as good and pain as bad like hedonism does, the best outcome would naturally be for the graph to be as maxed out as possible, for you to be feeling the most joy at always, basically.
Thus, wouldn’t you have achieved this if you have mastered your internal state to the point where it’s always great and on cloud nine, regardless of what your external circumstances may be doing?! Now, that’s mastery indeed! Some would even say it makes for the ‘best’ life!
Only the external is outwardly visible
Now, something that you’ve got to remember is that others are only able to see from their own limited perspectives. It is true that the work done on your inside may affect your outside actions somewhat, but there is even then the chance of it all being overlooked, taken for granted or whatnot.
Let’s go to an extreme example, okay.
So you enter contemplation mode and go within yourself, sieving out all your inner demons and whatnot. On the outside it looks like you’re just sitting there deep in thought doing nothing. But for people for whom sitting there and just thinking is more equivalent with anxiety and depression and such, they’ll be all worried and anxious instead!
Like, oh no! Woe be this person!!!
Like hey bro, what do you think is the point of all this work I’ve been doing?!!
So really, the greatest piece of advice I can give regarding this is to just be true to yourself.
See, the greatest agent of change is none other than the self. As they say, change comes from within.
Like, no one could possibly be so free as to supervise and try to enforce a change in another literally all the time!
More of the time, it’s you just taking responsibility for yourself, even without anyone watching and doing what needs to be done. Without anyone recognising you, just for the sake of you yourself who is so precious to you. Now that’s laudable indeed!
Meanwhile, others may come in and try to heave things onto you based on what they think is right. Do this, do that! But really, the best course of action is to just be true to yourself! Only go along with it if it aligns with you and is also tolerable. But if it really goes against the bottom line you have, nope! Sorry!
For it’s ultimately really you for whom the project of you is ongoing. You’re the one most invested and the one who can enforce the most change. Outsiders can only do so much from their own lil’ limited perspectives.
Good vibes and communication
As you live, a most important thing is to find a nice balance with the outside world around you!
In general, it is best to align yourself with people who best vibe with you. I heard a saying: you’re the average of the 5 people you best get along with!
I won’t go into self-respect, boundaries and reciprocity today, but just know how very important that is.
However, one very important thing that I must touch on is really none other than communication.
Communication is literally the one and only way to resolve some things. Because if you’re not on the same page, there’ll only be discord, friction and disharmony between you! Like, even if both sides only have the literal best intentions!
In addition, something that seriously does not work in any way whatsoever for communication is doing so out of explosion.
As in, like shouting, waving your hands and whatever.
Nope. Rather, communication is done best in a diplomatic manner, where all sides try to best understand one another’s perspectives! After doing that, they reach the best conclusion in relation to all parties.
Therefore, it is very, very important to note that if one ever hopes to reach a good consensus with another, there are some things that one must be equipped with regardless.
First and foremost is self-control, for without that, one literally flips the tables, takes out the cannons and goes to war already. There’s literally no compromise possible!
Next is the ability to listen and accept the perspective of others. In existence, perspectives abound, and some may be very different from what you’re used to. Still, will you put in the effort to trying to properly comprehend them?
Well of course, in the first place, you can put in some work at the step of choosing who you consort with!
Like, if their vibes are literally too low for you, just don’t!!! And if they spew negative vibes, don’t let yourself be affected and infected by ’em please!
Well anyway, just always try your best and be true to yourself as I’d always believe is the best course of action!
And also…
Sometimes, you wanna help others along, to guide them, but they just won’t listen to you. Well in that case! Shift your priorities baby! It just ain’t gonna work. Yeah, one day they might come to see your POV but just not today yo. Ultimately, it’s still up to your internal state to not be overly affected by it! Remember, first and foremost comes yourself before others! Like, are you even doing your own!! work, please?
And also, I wanna introduce a quick concept to y’all here, one coming from Projectors in Human Design. Now, the thing about Projectors is that they’re meant to guide and have a strong urge to do so. However, oftentimes they aren’t welcome and it isn’t well received!!!
Ultimately, Projectors learn that the best way is simply to only give sought after! advice, to people who ARE receptive. For others, why then, it is simply not their place to give any advice. It’ll only bring a negative outcome anyways!!! Just coexist man!
Remember, forcing is not a good way and only leads to unhappiness at the end of the day! Like, it doesn’t even work, man, so why bother like seriously?!!
So in other words, pick your interactions carefully and try to only go 4 ones with positive vibes yeah.
Like at the end of the day, even a perfectly civil and diplomatic discussion with positive vibes only is so super possible!
Conclusion
So as usual, I’m writing some of my life advice again. It was totally freestyle this time as I didn’t really go in with anything planned, but huh! I think oh well, it should help! Probably is still okay somewhat!
Haha, I just changed the topic aka headline of the article even. Twist, turn it has as I’ve written it! But, well!
Anyway, I’m done for today. Master yourself for a joyful life people!