So today I’m gonna reflect about a sort of breakthrough in my mindset I just had last night. I feel that the content might be a little heavy, so don’t venture on unless you’re prepared!
Repeat: This article is not for everyone.
Alright so without further ado, let’s begin!
So basically, the situation yesterday was that I was doing a bit of inner work as usual. This time, the inner work was this: I realised that I was only better able to feel a sense of affinity towards those with whom I resonated more.
I mean like sure, that’s only normal. No one can vibe with everyone, really! And also, if you’ve read my previous articles, you should be pretty much able to tell that I am someone with cognitive empathy aplenty. As in, I accept that everyone is different and never judge someone for the differences that they might exhibit, if any.
So be honest in truth I feel that that’s already pretty good. But still.
The fact is that more spiritually people can feel love for everyone regardless. Meanwhile, I felt a… sense of separation of sorts from people whom I resonated less with in particular. Sure, I had some kindness and compassion towards them, but that was more on the cognitive side. In truth, I still felt somewhat distant and detached.
See. That’s why I said that the topic of the article is somewhat strange. Not for everyone. Ha. But anyway…
Being hardcore in this sense as I am, I wanted to dig deep and find out anything in my subconscious that was leading to any misperceptions of people or whatever it’s called.
So basically, I clicked on Youtube, and the universe revealed to me a vid from my favourite spiritual teacher, Aaron Abke. Basically, said video kind of gave a resounding answer to my questions as it was actually about something called unpositional love. Like, everyone is only ever able to see things from their own limited points of view. It’s never otherwise. And often they judge the points of view of others.
Meanwhile, the universe possesses unpositional love. Wherever you are, it recognises that you can only be there at the current stage of your journey. And it blesses you with this oh unconditional! love.
Anyway, what I gleaned from the video aside, I went to bed.
And then I woke up in the middle of the night and everything fit together perfectly like a puzzle.
So basically, I’ll explain the best I can, okay.
The crux of the matter is that I realised that while I had this cognitive empathy all along, I might have lacked in what is better known as this affective empathy, digging the term from my distant memories.
Previously, I had been feeling a sense of separation from others because they were not ‘rising’ to meet my perspective. Hence I remained in my own little perspective, isolated. And when I viewed the perspective others were at, I sometimes even viewed them as somewhat deficient and lacking in being unable to reach where I was at. And thus I adopted some sort of valiant lone ranger role.
For example, while others might have showed love and affection for me or whatnot, I might have viewed that from the perspective of ‘this is so lame and actually not legit, it’s just because of their own limited pov’.
Therefore while I may still have conceptually appreciated it, I didn’t actually truly feel it, for lack of a better term.
And yet, that is not the way the love of the universe works. The way the love of the universe works is such that it properly understands the level that the person in question is operating from and then empathises and relates with them from there, seeing how their feelings are. So rightly speaking, I should truly be seeing how they’re dispensing love and all!
Rather than expecting others to rise to your level of perspective, no! You enter their point of view and see how they, with the level of perspective available to them, are feeling towards you, those intentions!!! that lie therein!
Simply put, it is impossible for them to be feeling otherwise! That simply is the case because they’re just not equipped that way. A viewpoint of an individual limits and shapes how they’ll live.
To illustrate this better, I’ll tell you about the story called The Newest Hero on the app called Tales. It’s basically a story where you play as the main character who gets to make his own choices and move through the game. Thus you’ll have different ending based on what choices ya make.
So the main character was the king but gets overthrown by his second-in-command. He runs away and joins a band of mercenaries. There he learns how others suffered under his rule in ways he’d never known before. Together they aim to take back the castle, and secretly, a reclaiming of his throne is also the aim of the main character.
So right before the final battle, everyone finds out who the main character is, the former king. He makes no attempt to needlessly ingratiate himself with them, as he sees it. Instead they set off in silence… under a truce.
And the ending is that no one helps the main character, and the main character stands up for justice and helps the usurper king when the palace is attacked by demons, and then he makes a stand but no supporter is forthcoming afterwards at the end of the battle and the usurper just kills the king. The mercenaries who were his companions before just stand idly by as if it has nothing to do with him.
So that’s the ending I got.
So, basically, in my playing of this novel with choices, I played similar to my worldview and just stuck true to my path regardless. However, if now I played the game again, I actually feel that I might play somewhat differently!
In the game, I just felt that no one would understand me anyone and huh why can’t they just understand me and walked my own lonesome path regardless.
However, what about this alternative way of seeing it? Rather than feeling a sense of separation from them without even trying to connect, hey, think about it.
Interaction, truly, is about the communion of hearts. With your words and actions you attempt to connect with the heart of another. Such is how people bond as without it, without this active appealing of you, your self, it is literally impossible for any connection to be made.
Like no, you’ll just go on separate.
So, the way I was previously was more like just automatically reinforcing this sense of separation from others, accepting it and running with it.
Wow, that’s kinda deep but I guess, yeah, it is the way it is.
However, why do I need people to rise to my perspective before I can accept them? I mean, of course I never ever reject them, but I still keep a distance of sorts from them yeah. For starters, some people can’t even do it. On top of that, honestly speaking, I am truly sorely missing out on all that they are offering already at the moment!
Truly, it is a fact of this world that everyone is positioned in their own limited perspective. Yeah, of course it’s great when they can rise to yours. But even if they don’t!
Don’t feel separate from them! Just think about it! There is already so much that they already have to offer! Appreciate that, why don’t you!! Hey, it simply isn’t possibly for everyone to be on the same level as you!!!
Of course, avoiding those with low vibrations and bonding with those with high vibrations and similar worldviews still holds true.
Still, know that everyone, regardless of where they are at, are still these precious comrade Earthlings on the same path!
So, step one. You’re a kind person and nice to everyone, but might feel a sense of separation and keep somewhat of a distance at times. Your heart; not fully in it and you do not! truly feel it to be honest.
Step two. Rather than just cognitively having this truth deeply rooted within you that you should not judge everyone for everyone has their own path and where they’re at, why not add this on for size. See what they’re offering the world from their limited perspectives. Like actually see them! Don’t let your subconscious secretly judge them, feeling even as you go through the motions that you don’t truly connect well with em.
Nah! As for how you connect with people, it’s this. Don’t expect them to be where you’re at and feel secretly disappointed when they are not. Yeah, maybe you do feel magnanimity and acceptance for where they are at. Still, you’re not actually connecting with their souls, communing with their hearts!
No. Instead, you understand what they are offering to you from their level and truly appreciate it. Feel the joy at what they do have that they’re offering, smile and relish it.
Ask not from others what they cannot be?
Huh. That alone is insufficient. More like:
Ask not from others what they cannot be, AND see from others what they are from where they are and why they are.
What have you been missing out on because you overlooked it before just seeing a deficiency, and not consciously judging it but still subconsciously judging it because you kinda put a label on it there? That’s where they are, so please, don’t just accept it in the sense of ‘can’t ask from them what they don’t have’. No, accept it in the sense of ‘yes, I know this is how they are, and I AM content with it, and appreciate it.
As for why they are, well, know that it’s conditioning and life that has made them this way!!!
And similarly, I’m naturally gonna do this for my past self as well.
See, one very important thing to note is that people are unable to reach beyond their measures.
So, if I believe that I have always been doing the very best considering the level of consciousness that I have currently ascended to, well! Really! Why then would I fault myself for what I could not otherwise!!!!! have seen?
No, no. I appreciate my past self for having tried my very best, and I thank the almighty universe for where it has delivered me to today, lesson and all. I simply could not have been otherwise before as realistically speaking, it was still not my time! to learn so yet.
Alright, that’s basically the end of my lengthy recount on this sort of overnight enlightenment experience I had! I really! tried to explicate this to the best of my abilities, you know.
And also, I’m still completely new to this new worldview of sorts. I need to properly feel for and experience any changes that it might have made to my life, but to be honest, I already feel that this is quite a considerable achievement and pat myself on the back for it.
Now, it was really a long winding road to write about this, so if you’ve read all the way, I applaud you for it! Many of these insights on how to develop this article came to me in the middle of the night, right after I’d had this breakthrough in mindset, ha.
So, I still don’t really know well what to make of all this, but I’ve just done my best here to try to expound on it, so again, good job, me!
I certainly hope that I’ve made a good breakthrough in this shadow work or whatever it’s called, aiding in the flow towards a good, smooth life.
And I hope that y’all can have the necessary breakthroughs ya need too yeah!
Alright, that’s enough for today. It’s still the weekend, but I wanted to let these thoughts flow when they’re all still fresh in my mind so.
Now, I must tell myself that I really need to go indulge in self proper self-care and luxuriate, chillax and whatever. Hard work is over!
Anyway, till next time, people! No pressure, yeah, but continue living to your best yo!
Yeehah!
Ps: Have added the newly written Ode to 1 to pages. Halfway through my Enneagram song exaltations now! Gonna go eat breakfast now haha.
Pps: Other odes here hah.